Can You Imagine?
As I’ve grown older, I look at 21-year-olds and don’t see how I was ever able to accomplish it. But I did somehow….with my fair share of struggles.
Then at the wise old age of 26, I married my husband. Life seemed to be perfect, for all of 10 seconds. He was traveling for work, we decided to have two more children, and I was left feeling like a single mom for many years. So what did I decide to do? Start a Mary Kay consulting business, of course! What else would a young mom do while trying to juggle three young daughters other than drowning herself in as many activities as possible to drown out the noise of what she was really feeling.
I’d feed my six-month-old daughter with one of several self-help books in hand while my older daughters ran around. I really thought anyone who even glanced at me could see the burnout and overwhelm on my face. I was sure it just radiated from my body. And you know how much that self-help book actually helped? Not at all. I was seriously struggling. Maybe I hid my feelings of isolation incredibly well because no one seemed to notice and that made me feel even more alone. Obviously, my business was suffering but I was also convinced I didn’t want to be married any longer and that I was certifiably the worst mother on the face of the planet.
It’s All His Fault
Clearly, all of this was my husband’s fault! Enter marriage counseling. At this point, I would love to say that everything shifted and counseling changed my entire marriage. However that isn’t the truth, I was SERIOUSLY struggling. It took a shift in moving away from guilt but finally after several interactions something clicked.
I, Denise Purdy, didn’t know who I was.
I, Denise Purdy, didn’t know what I wanted.
Or what I even enjoyed anymore.
I was the lost one.
I was the shell of my former self.
I needed more help and couldn’t do it alone.
Praise to my first coach, She helped me tackle a lot of my blocks, mindset issues, and see what other changes I could make to get back to something or someone I loved. The pantry got a makeover with our new dietary changes. The personal trainer I hired helped me lose weight. After a few weeks, people began to notice all these changes, I was looking human again. That is when I realized I was capable of helping others too! My new career as a health coach was born.
Life isn’t always that simple though, is it? I finished my training and quickly realized most families and women I worked with KNEW what to do but were still CHOOSING differently. Well, that is a very different problem than simply not knowing what to cook or how to cook it. I took more training on how to uncover this specific mental block, I realized how much of an impact our thinking, emotions, habits, and beliefs have on our lives.
The Shift Occurs
I enjoyed working in the health and wellness field as a coach and consultant but that is no longer what I do with my clients. There are personal trainers, dieticians, and others who have the deep passion to help you with that if that is all you believe you need and nothing more.
Helping women find their true passion and live their life on purpose is how I spend my time now.
My clients want to lead more successful lives and careers. They want to be better mothers. They want to do it with peace and ease in their hearts.
There isn’t an easy trick. If all you needed to do was read a couple of books from the self help section in Barnes & Noble, I would’ve felt immensely better decades upon decades ago.
Letting Go
A big component for me and many of my clients is the fact that we need to let go more often. Easier said than done, I know.
I had to let go of the idea that I would be in Mary Kay forever.
I had to let go of the resentment and bitterness I had for my husband.
And my dad (did you see that coming?).
I had to let go (and this is a daily practice for me) of my own limiting beliefs about what I could become and how much I could impact the world.
But what I gained is worth so much more.
“If it’s meant to be… It’s up to me”
I found out during my journey and process that I am completely capable of figuring out what I need and desire. Plus I know I can work to make it happen. I am able to set goals AND achieve them. The scariest parts only serve to push me harder and make me stronger. I am able to have an active role in the results of my marriage, parenting, health, and business.
I redefined what it means to be a “Supermom.” I still am one, but a more realistic and practical version.
Sometimes even…. Having an active role also means seeking additional help.
Uncover the truth of who you are.
Find out what lights you up.
Explore what you want to create.
Invite me to guide you on how to do the work necessary so that you can fulfill the dreams you are making.
“IF IT’S MEANT TO BE…IT’S UP TO ME”